Just this afternoon when i've reached home from school, i finally took a look at my house.
It's in a total mess and nobody even bothered to clean it up, in fact i figured that they(my brothers) just piled up another piece of worn t-shirt or jeans over the previous one that they left.
It was so bad that when i wanted to put my lunch which i bought from a nearby eatery on the table, there was no available surface.The table was filled with bills , notes and books, i was really frustrated and went insane for a moment, i threw all their books,bills ect onto 1 side of the table and i did notice that i made an expression which Dr.Lightmen from "Lie to me" will have said to be that of a person who wants to kill or hurt somebody intentionally.
It was a subconscious expression, well who can blame me?for a neat freak like me, going home with the crazy warm and humid weather, seeing everything so messed up, not being able to find a spot for my lunch on the table was the melting point. It's not like i have did anything drastic anyways.
Well so i cooled down and thought things through, if i carry on wanting things to be clean and neat i will only get even more angry with everything around me.Reason being that i am too much of a perfectionist when it come to the tidiness of the place i stay in.
So i should compromise?
However without the existence of perfectionist, where is the room for improvement?
without someone always being there to do better, would you strive for the better?
In this case my argument is very one-sided since even with me around, i know that my brothers will not make the effort to be tidier and things like that.
It's their lifestyle choices , which i don't think i have the capability to change it.
So does it mean that they should not change?
Well from my point of view, i do not think that this is a healthy lifestyle choice at all.
Why do you clean up your room when you bring girls home?
It is because you don't want them to know how untidy you are.
If you do this kind of thing you are subconsciously ashamed of your own untidiness.
Untidiness not only make things look messy, overtime your unmaintained items will start to attract pests.
You want that?
But the whole point of my argument is you don't have to be a perfectionist, but at least don't be too sloppy.
Lets take an example of a lady.
Lets say this is a average lady with a average look and average figure.
If she just do away with the whole perfectionist thing,everyday she just go to work with her unkempt hair and never brushes her teeth, do you think she will even get a job in the first place?
At least do your best, yeah that's the phrase.
Do your best to look your best, you don't have to look perfect because nobody is perfect.
Just do your best to look your best, people will feel like you've made the effort and you will also look better and feel better.
Well then, food for thoughts.
Not really
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Monday, April 27, 2009
Sunday, March 22, 2009
Appreciative
Appreciation is what most people really yearns for,
even for me, i feel that being appreciative and appreciated is something that should not be lacking in every relationships.
Even with my customers, they shows their appreciation with at least a word of thank you.
I really don't understand, if the people that you do not know can appreciate you for your services, why can't those who are your friend, those who are closer to you and understands you be appreciative.
Recently i've been feeling really vexed over certain things that is happening and not happening.
It seems like nowadays people don't care anymore, i don't think that i can go on with this kind of feeling so i am going to make a decision, hopefully to change this situation to the better.
Even though i look up to how DaveyWavey is always positive and i try to be as positive as i can, but i just seems to be in a down time during this point of life where i don't need hypocrites, sarcastic people and people who just thinks about themselves.
I HATE to the extreme selfish people.
I just need people who really do care.
By the way, i've got STICKY's rainbow mini-pop for the girls who never complains
Sharon who is always so nice to everyone and
Liu who is also always nice and patient with teaching me during exam periods.
I did not get anything for the guys not because i am bias but i just don't think they will like the lollipops.
even for me, i feel that being appreciative and appreciated is something that should not be lacking in every relationships.
Even with my customers, they shows their appreciation with at least a word of thank you.
I really don't understand, if the people that you do not know can appreciate you for your services, why can't those who are your friend, those who are closer to you and understands you be appreciative.
Recently i've been feeling really vexed over certain things that is happening and not happening.
It seems like nowadays people don't care anymore, i don't think that i can go on with this kind of feeling so i am going to make a decision, hopefully to change this situation to the better.
Even though i look up to how DaveyWavey is always positive and i try to be as positive as i can, but i just seems to be in a down time during this point of life where i don't need hypocrites, sarcastic people and people who just thinks about themselves.
I HATE to the extreme selfish people.
I just need people who really do care.
By the way, i've got STICKY's rainbow mini-pop for the girls who never complains
Sharon who is always so nice to everyone and
Liu who is also always nice and patient with teaching me during exam periods.
I did not get anything for the guys not because i am bias but i just don't think they will like the lollipops.
Thursday, February 19, 2009
Freedom is it really attainable?
I believe that every human being on the surface of this planet deserves to be free.
Sadly,total freedom is something that is pretty much unattainable in the modern society.
However, freedom can come in many forms
1.Financial freedom
This is to be financially free, having enough to spend not having to worry about what might occur, because you already have enough money/savings or a stable job to see you through all situation.
2.Freedom of speech
In my country, it is pretty unattainable, everything that you say could just land you in jail.
However in other countries, I see how people can just say what they like without the fear
of being arrested,it seems pretty damn awesome.
3.Freedom to love
This of course is the ability to love your friends, your family and your special ones
4.Freedom to travel
With a Singapore passport, it is extremely easy to get around most countries.
But the point is that ,you get to go where you want to go within your means.
5.Freedom from human
Freedom from humans, basically means that you have no obligation to do anything for a person, for example younger siblings need not do things for their elder siblings.Everything that a person do should come from their heart.
6.Freedom from problems
This is to be set free from burden that have been troubling you,the only way to do so is to get rid of the problems 1 by 1.
7.Freedom from illness
Having a healthy body, at least to the best that you can have.(Exercise regularly, have proper meal with vegs &fruits)
Cancel or hereditary illnesses are inevitable, but you can always sick early treatment when you feel unwell.
8.Freedom for the mind
Have a healthy mind, perhaps you can try meditating.
Just try to relax and not stress yourself out too much, you might just go crazy~.
Above are 8 of those general freedoms, So isn't it logical to get back what you originally deserves?
Sadly,total freedom is something that is pretty much unattainable in the modern society.
However, freedom can come in many forms
1.Financial freedom
This is to be financially free, having enough to spend not having to worry about what might occur, because you already have enough money/savings or a stable job to see you through all situation.
2.Freedom of speech
In my country, it is pretty unattainable, everything that you say could just land you in jail.
However in other countries, I see how people can just say what they like without the fear
of being arrested,it seems pretty damn awesome.
3.Freedom to love
This of course is the ability to love your friends, your family and your special ones
4.Freedom to travel
With a Singapore passport, it is extremely easy to get around most countries.
But the point is that ,you get to go where you want to go within your means.
5.Freedom from human
Freedom from humans, basically means that you have no obligation to do anything for a person, for example younger siblings need not do things for their elder siblings.Everything that a person do should come from their heart.
6.Freedom from problems
This is to be set free from burden that have been troubling you,the only way to do so is to get rid of the problems 1 by 1.
7.Freedom from illness
Having a healthy body, at least to the best that you can have.(Exercise regularly, have proper meal with vegs &fruits)
Cancel or hereditary illnesses are inevitable, but you can always sick early treatment when you feel unwell.
8.Freedom for the mind
Have a healthy mind, perhaps you can try meditating.
Just try to relax and not stress yourself out too much, you might just go crazy~.
Above are 8 of those general freedoms, So isn't it logical to get back what you originally deserves?
Facing the reality
It's not easy to have to face the reality,
many people just live in self-denier because that is their comfort zone,
they feel the safest there.
As cliche as it might sound, reality is harsh,
and it's true how many people just deny when they have a problem,
they themselves are running away from reality,
they are running away from the problems,
they do not want to face it,
they know that by facing the problems,
they will be attacked,
by their self-esteem and by people around them.
However we need to know that,
by facing the problems,
it is the only way to break away and get rid of the problems,
rather then having problems piling on top,
why not face them one by one,
freeing yourself from the invisible burden.
and finally,
enjoying life with your new found freedom.
many people just live in self-denier because that is their comfort zone,
they feel the safest there.
As cliche as it might sound, reality is harsh,
and it's true how many people just deny when they have a problem,
they themselves are running away from reality,
they are running away from the problems,
they do not want to face it,
they know that by facing the problems,
they will be attacked,
by their self-esteem and by people around them.
However we need to know that,
by facing the problems,
it is the only way to break away and get rid of the problems,
rather then having problems piling on top,
why not face them one by one,
freeing yourself from the invisible burden.
and finally,
enjoying life with your new found freedom.
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
If only I can turn back time
The Planet is always turning,
just like how time never stops,
human continues to learn,
meeting of new friends,
losing other old friends,
people changing,
events happening,
seasons to seasons,
human aging,
life and death.
and all this events adds up into our life,
every single events significant or not,
whether we notice it or not,
it contributes to who we are today.
Time will never go the other way around.
I was thinking, about all this events, and sadly I don't think i have made much wise decision throughout my 18 years of life.
Looking back, I did lose out a lot of my time wasting my life on the so called "slack and enjoy " times.
For the pass 3 years ,I have been feeling terrible inside, it feels as if my heart is trapped in a crate. I lacked the ability to love, this is not me, i used to be much more carefree and outgoing.
Why have it come to a point whereby, everyday is a struggle in my heart?
I will often ask myself "what really is the problem?"
But deep down I know what the problem is.
It is a problem i can never face again.
Let me tell you my story,
At the age of 13 I got to know this girl,
she was sweet she was nice, she was what I really wanted
we were really close for the next 4 to 5 years
in between, we had our ups and downs
many times I really wanted to let my feelings be known to her
however, shy as I am I did not
you are right this is another typical "Regret story"
but just let me continue...
there was a period when we will have phone conversation for up to 4 or 5 hours daily
I was positive that I really liked her
parts of my heart thought that she had feelings for me too
however most of my heart told me that she just takes me as a good friend
I saw her through many relationships with her boyfriends
It was a hard thing to do, but I wanted to be there for her
she will often complain about how her boyfriend just scolded her
how she just quarreled with her boyfriend
in tears, she will tell me that she just broke up with her boyfriend
many times I encourage her to break up with her boyfriend
maybe it's because that will open a gate for me
or maybe I really just want her to be happy
I used to listen to this song "Let Me Love You"by Mario
this song is just what I really wanted to tell her
I even tried to forget her by going out with another girl
however, without feelings everything is just empty
my crush for her lasted for close to 4 years
and now we are labeled "Best friends"
she once told me that she will never go out with her best friend
because boy friend don't last forever
but best friends last forever
Until now, the burden is like a tattoo.
It will forever be in my heart, or maybe it will pass after a good 10 years?
or perhaps someone will make me forget his memories.
If only I can turn back time, I would prevent this regret from happening.
I would have told her how I felt, I won't be that shy boy.
I would not be feeling so trapped, so helpless.
I may not be who I am today.
just like how time never stops,
human continues to learn,
meeting of new friends,
losing other old friends,
people changing,
events happening,
seasons to seasons,
human aging,
life and death.
and all this events adds up into our life,
every single events significant or not,
whether we notice it or not,
it contributes to who we are today.
Time will never go the other way around.
I was thinking, about all this events, and sadly I don't think i have made much wise decision throughout my 18 years of life.
Looking back, I did lose out a lot of my time wasting my life on the so called "slack and enjoy " times.
For the pass 3 years ,I have been feeling terrible inside, it feels as if my heart is trapped in a crate. I lacked the ability to love, this is not me, i used to be much more carefree and outgoing.
Why have it come to a point whereby, everyday is a struggle in my heart?
I will often ask myself "what really is the problem?"
But deep down I know what the problem is.
It is a problem i can never face again.
Let me tell you my story,
At the age of 13 I got to know this girl,
she was sweet she was nice, she was what I really wanted
we were really close for the next 4 to 5 years
in between, we had our ups and downs
many times I really wanted to let my feelings be known to her
however, shy as I am I did not
you are right this is another typical "Regret story"
but just let me continue...
there was a period when we will have phone conversation for up to 4 or 5 hours daily
I was positive that I really liked her
parts of my heart thought that she had feelings for me too
however most of my heart told me that she just takes me as a good friend
I saw her through many relationships with her boyfriends
It was a hard thing to do, but I wanted to be there for her
she will often complain about how her boyfriend just scolded her
how she just quarreled with her boyfriend
in tears, she will tell me that she just broke up with her boyfriend
many times I encourage her to break up with her boyfriend
maybe it's because that will open a gate for me
or maybe I really just want her to be happy
I used to listen to this song "Let Me Love You"by Mario
this song is just what I really wanted to tell her
I even tried to forget her by going out with another girl
however, without feelings everything is just empty
my crush for her lasted for close to 4 years
and now we are labeled "Best friends"
she once told me that she will never go out with her best friend
because boy friend don't last forever
but best friends last forever
Until now, the burden is like a tattoo.
It will forever be in my heart, or maybe it will pass after a good 10 years?
or perhaps someone will make me forget his memories.
If only I can turn back time, I would prevent this regret from happening.
I would have told her how I felt, I won't be that shy boy.
I would not be feeling so trapped, so helpless.
I may not be who I am today.
Freedom
When i typed "Freedom" in dictionary.com, it gave me a multitude of meaning.
So what really is freedom?
It could be one of the many meanings(below) defined by dictionary.com
So if you add all this meaning together, who in this earth really have freedom?
So what really is freedom?
It could be one of the many meanings(below) defined by dictionary.com
| 1. | the state of being free or at liberty rather than in confinement or under physical restraint: He won his freedom after a retrial. |
| 2. | exemption from external control, interference, regulation, etc. |
| 3. | the power to determine action without restraint. |
| 4. | political or national independence. |
| 5. | personal liberty, as opposed to bondage or slavery: a slave who bought his freedom. |
| 6. | exemption from the presence of anything specified (usually fol. by from): freedom from fear. |
| 7. | the absence of or release from ties, obligations, etc. |
| 8. | ease or facility of movement or action: to enjoy the freedom of living in the country. |
| 9. | frankness of manner or speech. |
| 10. | general exemption or immunity: freedom from taxation. |
| 11. | the absence of ceremony or reserve. |
| 12. | a liberty taken. |
| 13. | a particular immunity or privilege enjoyed, as by a city or corporation: freedom to levy taxes. |
| 14. | civil liberty, as opposed to subjection to an arbitrary or despotic government. |
| 15. | the right to enjoy all the privileges or special rights of citizenship, membership, etc., in a community or the like. |
| 16. | the right to frequent, enjoy, or use at will: to have the freedom of a friend's library. |
| 17. | Philosophy. the power to exercise choice and make decisions without constraint from within or without; autonomy; self-determination. Compare necessity (def. 7). |
So if you add all this meaning together, who in this earth really have freedom?
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